Creating a great relationship is not innate; it takes trust, knowledge, awareness and skill to communicate and contribute. After all, we are animals and like most animals survival is our underlying drive. If we are just surviving our relationship, there’s not much room to create it being great. Continue reading Wishing for A Great Relationship?→
The book features interviews with 16 Relationship Experts including Bill O’Hanlon, Christian Mickelsen, Bill Cole, Ruth Buczynski, Anne Barab, Rebecca Skeele, Dr. Deb Herschhorn, Susan Hayward, Keiko Hsu, Melissa Risdon, Shannon and Scott Peck, Kari Joys, Mukara Meridith, Diana Poole Heller, Mamiko Odegard and Cheryl Blossom.
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Want a quick handy guide on how to get back in sync?
Here are a couple of ways to get off it, and take your relationship up…
1st and foremost:
Give Up Your Need to be Right
It’s just not worth it. Whenever you feel the ‘urgent’ need to jump into a fight over who is right or who is wrong, ask yourself this question: “Would I rather be right, or would I rather feel love and be connected?”
What difference does it really make – who is right or who is wrong?
Ask yourself: “Is my ego really that fragile?” “Why can’t I be wrong?” “What would it mean to be wrong?” “What would happen if I just let it go?”
Open your heart. Can you be more vulnerable?
Get curious. “Why are they saying that?” “Why do they think or feel that way?” “What do they want?”
If you can’t stand the idea of being wrong – wanting to always be right – even at the risk of ending your relationship or causing a great deal of stress and pain, it is time to ask yourself: “Why am I so desperate?” “What do I need – really?”