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Wishing for A Great Relationship?

Wishing for Love!
Wishing for Love!

We have all been there.

Wishing to fall in love, wishing to find the right person, or wishing the person we were with was different somehow.

Wishing they were more loving, more generous, more responsive. You know – more better!

According to the dictionary wishing means: to feel, to hope for, or to express a strong desire for something that is not easily attainable; wanting something that cannot or probably will not happen.

Well that explains a lot!

When we wish for something, the first thing we are affirming is that we don’t have it. In order to have a great relationship the first thing to do is stop wishing for it and start creating it.

You can get the book here: Insiders’ Secrets to a Great Relationship!

Having a Great Relationship Takes Something!

Creating a great relationship is not innate; it takes trust, knowledge, awareness and skill to communicate and contribute. After all, we are animals and like most animals survival is our underlying drive. If we are just surviving our relationship, there’s not much room to create it being great. Continue reading Wishing for A Great Relationship?

Discuss Insiders’ Secrets

Hi Everyone!

This is a place for comments, discussion and questions about the totally awesome ebook, Insiders’ Secrets to a Great Relationship!  If you haven’t grabbed your free copy yet, you can get one here.

The book features interviews with 16 Relationship Experts including Bill O’Hanlon, Christian Mickelsen, Bill Cole, Ruth Buczynski, Anne Barab, Rebecca Skeele, Dr. Deb Herschhorn, Susan Hayward, Keiko Hsu, Melissa Risdon, Shannon and Scott Peck, Kari Joys, Mukara Meridith, Diana Poole Heller, Mamiko Odegard and Cheryl Blossom.

Please let us know which of the ideas in the book you’ve tried and which ones worked for you!


Ch – Ch – Ch – Change

Me Change?
Me Change?

The other day I was thinking about some changes I wanted to make. You know, things like taking sugar out of my diet and losing 10 lbs.

I was wondering if I could do it.

“How painful is it going to be to make those changes?”

 This had me contemplating,“Why do I both want things to change and resist them changing at the same time?”

“Why do I resist making a change even when I know that it would be good for me, or that I would ultimately really like the results of making that change?”

Hmmm… Continue reading Ch – Ch – Ch – Change

Taking Your Relationship UP

Taking It Up!
Taking It Up!

Ever have a hard time in your relationship?

Want a quick handy guide on how to get back in sync?

Here are a couple of ways to get off it, and take your relationship up…



1st and foremost:

Give Up Your Need to be Right

It’s just not worth it. Whenever you feel the ‘urgent’ need to jump into a fight over who is right or who is wrong, ask yourself this question: “Would I rather be right, or would I rather feel love and be connected?”

What difference does it really make – who is right or who is wrong?

Ask yourself: “Is my ego really that fragile?” “Why can’t I be wrong?” “What would it mean to be wrong?” “What would happen if I just let it go?”

Open your heart. Can you be more vulnerable?

Get curious. “Why are they saying that?” “Why do they think or feel that way?” “What do they want?”

If you can’t stand the idea of being wrong – wanting to always be right – even at the risk of ending your relationship or causing a great deal of stress and pain, it is time to ask yourself: “Why am I so desperate?” “What do I need – really?”

Continue reading Taking Your Relationship UP

What If You Only Had 24 Hours to Live?

"I love you!"
“I love you!”

What would you do if you only had 24 hours to live?

When I asked my clients this question the answer was pretty universal. They would connect with their friends and family and tell them, “I love you.”

They would open their heart and let the people in their life know how grateful they were for the love shared. They would say, “I love you.”

“I Love You!”

When was the last time you said, “I love you”?

Do you hold back? If you do, why do you hold back?

Do you think that the people in your life would be put off by you saying, “I love you”?

Do you think it might be embarrassing or they would consider you sappy, needy, or weird?

Maybe you are concerned about rejection.

At our core we all want to be loved and appreciated. One of the most precious gift you can give the people in your life is to love and appreciate them.

When you say, “I love you” from your heart you are giving an amazing gift of love and appreciation.  Continue reading What If You Only Had 24 Hours to Live?